Life success - A system

Mark H. Shearon

Success was defined by Earl Nightingale as "the progressive realization of a worthy ideal." An ideal is an idea you are in love with. I feel being successful is having the ability to get your "self" out of the way so you can be of service to others.
People either do what they do for one of 3 reasons: Recognition, money or service. When we become aware of how the "self", our programmed way of thinking and doing, stops us most of the time from being of service we have the opportunity to reach a new level of success no matter what we are already successful at.

Tom Willhite gave the definition for support as, "taking the responsibility to see that all of a person's abilities are being applied toward the accomplishment of their goal."
The support he talks about is service to others.

With coaching and support we can understand how having a success system is a valuable tool to support us in the further development of any and all future goals we may desire.
Whether you are aware of it or not, you have been programmed with some type of system and it is responsible for where you are now. Often to be able to move to another level of success, we have to adjust or change the system to be, do or have more in our life.

About 3 years ago my family was told my father had terminal cancer and over the last couple of years he was alive I visited him and had the opportunity to reflect on how he influenced me and my life in this regard to a programmed success system. There are basically 5 steps that he shared with me:

1. Fear. My father said I shouldn't be afraid of the people or whatever situation we might be in with people as they weren't out to hurt us (or me) they were just looking for help themselves. We had a funeral home and back in those days we also operated the ambulance service. Being a small child and being around that type of environment often brought about the feeling of fear; mostly the fear found from not knowing what is going on with people in regard to them being upset. Crying (often screaming) over the hurt or death of a loved one. I found not being fearful of the situations we were often faced with supported me in being able to be of service to those people in one of the worst times of their lives.

2. Love and patience. My father said that the world and the people in it are not perfect; you have to "put up with" some things you might not like. Life often looks greener on the other side of the fence; and most of the time it is true that we can't see the forest for the trees. Maybe those are familiar sayings to you as well. What about the judgments we place on people, on ourselves, on our loved ones or even on people we work with? Looking back over my life I wonder how different it might have been if I had used this more often. I remember how he joked about his "having" to put up with my mother! If we are more loving and patient, we might have to put up with more from others. This might add some light on "do it my way or the highway!"

3. Choices and commitment. Life is about choices and our commitment to those choices. I loved his thoughts on how to determine what choices to make. He said: "Is this something you are willing to wake up with for the rest of your life?" A girl I was thinking about marring ended when he said, "you know you don't want to wake up every morning for the rest of your life with "that" beside you!" And he wasn't talking about looks, he meant the commitment that was associated with it.

4. Winning. Maybe another way of thinking about this subject is arguing. Simply put, in the end everyone gets what they deserve. Where do you want to spend your time and energy?

5. Life. Be as happy as you can be and let others join you because the only thing in life you are guaranteed is what you just had.

Maybe this will get you to think about your family and how you can do things possibly in a way you haven't thought of before.
Until next time…


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Mark Shearon has been a personal coach, author and successful entrepreneur for most of his life. He has taught courses in personal development around the world and worked with some of the top names in the industry including teachers from the movie "The Secret". To start living the life of your dreams, go to PraxisLife.net. Personal growth has never been so attainable and affordable. You deserve a Praxis Life!