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Your thoughts, beliefs and actions |
| Mark H. Shearon |
In a university study of human behavior, it was determined that we as humans develop 50% of our beliefs, habits and perceptions by the time we are 4 years old. By the time we are 8 we have another 35% in place and by 18 we have 95% of our habits, beliefs, and perceptions engrained in us. Now, I don't now about you, but that is somewhat of a scary thought for me. To think that I make decisions on a daily basis operating from the perception of an 18 year old! And to think I am helping my kids to determine their beliefs!
Don't get me wrong; I feel there are many 18 year people who are very intelligent, responsible, considerate, and all around great people. I'm speaking from the thought of myself at 18. The difference between my life now and what it was at 18 is paramount!
I have a quick story that you may have already heard:
A little girl sees her mom cooking a family dinner. The grandparents and great-grandparents are all there. She asks her mom, "Why do you cut the ends off of the ham before you cook it?" the mother replies, "That's the way my mother did it." So the girl finds grandma and asks the same question. The grandmother replies, "That's the way my mother did it." You guessed it, the girl went to great-grandma and asks, "Great-grandma, why do you cut the ends off of the ham before you cook it?" the grand-mother looks at the girl lovingly and says, "I never had a pan big enough so I had to cut the ends off to make it fit!"
Now you see how beliefs and thoughts get passed from generation to generation. This is a good example of following our parents lead if for no other reason, just because that's the way it has always been done.
Do we even know what our thoughts are on a daily basis? How do we react to certain situations based on what we believe deep inside? Where did those beliefs come from? Apparently they came from our parents, baby-sitters, siblings, teachers and friends in an 18 year span of time at the beginning of our life.
Our thoughts are as a part of us as any other part of our body. We could not function without thought. Do you remember when you learned to drive? Watching the mirrors, making sure you didn't go too fast, looking at the signs, watching for other traffic, etc. Now, it's not uncommon to see someone driving down the road, eating a sandwich, talking on the cell phone and driving with their knees! (it could also be riding a bicycle or anything else that you do daily)
So how does this all play into our actions? If we were to take every second of the day and evaluate our actions or better yet, our reactions, we could see that our thoughts, beliefs, habits, or perceptions dictate everything that we do.
Are some of our thoughts and beliefs useful? Of course! Are their some that keep us from achieving the things in our life that we want? Absolutely.
What do you believe about money? (i.e. "Money is the root of all evil") What do you believe about relationships? (ie. "People leave a couple of years into a marriage")What do you believe about yourself? (ie. "I'll never get what I want, I'm not – smart, lucky, rich, tall, male, female") Where did we learn these beliefs? You got it; parents, teachers, etc.
If you truly want to get the things in life that you desire, take a look at your thoughts and beliefs surrounding that desire. Once you find your deep seated belief, you'll be able to adjust that belief to be more effective in your own life.
What do we say to ourselves during the day? Are we grumbling about everything or are we happy to be alive? Affirmations a incredibly helpful. It has been found that the more we tell ourselves something, the more we believe it. So, wouldn't it make more sense to tell ourselves something good? Plus, when we find some belief or thought that is not useful, it can be an effective tool to "re-write" the belief with a new one; even if you don't believe it at first.
Be careful what you think, you may make it true. This is a major contributor to the Law of Attraction. The saying, "If you believe, you can achieve" states it in a nutshell. Think about your thoughts and create the life of your dreams!
Until next time…
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| About the Author |
©2006 All rights reserved
Mark Shearon has been a personal coach, author and successful entrepreneur for most of his life. He has taught courses in personal development around the world and worked with some of the top names in the industry including teachers from the movie "The Secret". To start living the life of your dreams, go to www.PraxisLife.net. Personal growth has never been so attainable and affordable. You deserve a Praxis Life!
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C.D. Bailey
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Gkar, on Babylon 5
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