Tips for moving on after a big argument with your partner
Getting into an argument with your partner is something that can happen from time to time and is completely expected. When two personalities come together into a relationship, opinions can be conflicting sometimes and expressing yourself to the other isn’t always a walk in the park.
When a big argument happens which sends you both exploding into words you may regret later on it can be something which makes you both feel drained after. You may find yourself doubting things, feeling frustrated about your actions, or even frustrated about your partner’s actions. You may blame them or wonder what you did wrong to deserve the argument. At the end of the day, however, a resolution is the most important thing.
In order to reach a resolution and feel better afterward, you should try the following tips.
Consider Seeing a Professional
When you are trying to move on from feelings you are left with after a heated debate these frustrations can carry on into the future. You may carry a grudge and feel as if you don’t know how to let this experience go.
As a couple, you should consider therapy together. Making an appointment with a therapist is a great way to work together towards a resolution and organize your thoughts and feelings in a professional setting. Sometimes having a therapist’s guidance is the best way to move towards healing.
Rather than leaving questions unanswered or feeling like you are merely sweeping the argument under the rug, make sure that you have reached closure together.
When you work towards the end of the chapter of an argument rather than letting it fester and make you feel like you are left with nothing but questions, this will only build into something bigger in the future. Always get closure with each other and you’ll avoid arguments later down the road.
Let It Go
Sometimes you may never understand all of the details or be able to accept why your partner did or said what they did. Since every human is a vessel of their own with their own individual thoughts and perceptions, we can’t always understand completely.
Therefore sometimes the best thing to do is simply accept things and let them go. Try to envision holding sand in your fingers and simply letting it slip through the cracks. Forgiveness and acceptance are sometimes the only way to move on. Even if we don’t have all of the answers.
Moving on from the feelings which accompany the aftermath of an argument can be a timely process. Your partner may not be ready to dive immediately back into things being perfect, and you may not either. Therefore, having patience with yourself and them is the best way to move forward.